Category: Life

Six Good Things Sunday #4

Hello, hello! I’ve taken quite a lengthy pause from publishing new installments of SGTS. I want SGTS to be as genuine as possible, and with that in mind I try to compose these posts of things that have really kept me going during the last two weeks or so. These lists were difficult to write as of late. Instead of forcing it, I just let it slide.

But I’m back! Sometimes you just have to push yourself a little.

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Spanish

When I look back through all the SGTS I’ve posted so far, I see that Spanish has appeared in at least half of them. It’s not the only language that I am learning, but it’s the one that gives me most emotional satisfaction. I’ve been a bit slack in my studies for the last week or two, but in the past few days I’ve made a bigger effort, and it feels good.

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Spring

Spring has been quite temperamental. Isn’t it always? We’ve been through really warm days (20+ C), and we’ve had some cold ones (2 C). Of course, it’s the weekends that get all the cold and the wind. But the trees are in bloom, and the grass is getting green everywhere, so it’s all good.

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Makeup Inventory

I’ve been tallying up the amount of make-up and skincare items that I own, and the numbers have left me a bit discombobulated. I’m on a self-imposed make-up buying ban. Judging by the size of my skin and hair care stash, I might ban myself from purchasing those items as well.

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Walks

Walking to and from work and taking long strolls in the evenings and on the weekends is doing wonders to my disposition – and health. I’m not quite in a happy place, but meh. It’s not the destination, it’s the journey.

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Ideas

Some time this week my father visited me and dropped a bunch of books at home. Amongst them was the book on the Peter Principle. I’ve been familiar with the concept for a while, but it hasn’t resonated with me as strongly before. Certain events in my work and personal life were not pleasant, and they continue to disappoint. This book has been a great reminder to take my side projects and ideas more seriously. This, too, has been aiding my otherwise low disposition. Moldova is not known as the land of opportunities, but sometimes you just have to take a risk, because you’re tired of constantly feeling cramped and trapped.

Prodigy

As any other person out there, I run a list of things I want to achieve and experience in life. On that list is a section on bands and artists I want to see performing live. Hearing the news about The Prodigy’s show in Kishinev was amazing. I’ll be buying my ticket next week.

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Don’t Focus on the Positive

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Every self-help article out there touts the wretched positivity horn.

Be happy! Smile! Don’t worry! Fake it til you make it! You’re a unicorn.

No. I hate to break it to you, but… no.

This is not focus on positivity. This is disillusionment that everything in your life is fine whilst you once more shut the doors upon the wreck, and numb and dumb yourself down even further with binge sessions of cute flatlays with rose gold and marble, or whatever your preferred choice of porno is.

No. Stop it right there.

Don’t focus on the positive.

Focus on positive action.

Repeat with me:

Focus on positive action.

Repeat with me again:

Focus on positive action.

Positivity without action is harmful.

“Hey, I have a clean mug, that’s good, I’ll focus on that.”

No. Don’t focus on a clean mug. Focus on the action that gave you that clean mug. You picked it up, and you washed it.

Don’t focus on a lost pound. Focus on what you did and didn’t do to get yourself that lost pound. You ate less sugar and walked more.

Don’t focus on a saved tenner. Focus on the actions you’ve performed to get yourself that saved tenner. You didn’t buy another nail polish, and you followed a strict shopping list.

Don’t focus on a finished sale. Focus on what you did to close the sale. You worked on your product and you were attentive to the client’s needs.

Focus on the action that yields you positive results, and do more of that.

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(This post has a Russian version.)

I’ve wanted to share a resolutions post – I love writing those and reading those – and I wrote mine, but upon rereading, it sounded like a goal list. A plan. Nothing wrong with that, but one of my resolutions is to keep mum on the majority of my plans until I see at least some fruition.

So here, instead, is a list of vague inclinations. Things I want to let into my life, keep in my life, remove from my life. I try not to use the word ‘more’ when setting goals – goals need to be specific and time-sensitive – but since these ain’t goals, just mere suggestions, you’ll see quite a lot of the ‘more’ in there.

2017

take purposeless walks to clear my head // take purposeful photo walks // eat outside // drink tea // read books // sing when I feel like it // paint my nails often // try a new make-up brand // bake // listen // go on lunch dates // go out for breakfast // move // learn // avoid stagnation // properly set a table for at least five meals a week // invite people over // be proud of the flat i live in // heavily update my wardrobe // curb impulse purchases // watch my posture // rekindle my love for entertaining // sign up for a pole dancing class // show my library some lovin’ // spend more purposeful time with cats // be present // stop being lazy // stop half-arsing things // do more // talk less // listen more // listen better // be more // be better // buy less inexpensive perfume // learn some new hairstyles // watch 30 movies // attend a group exercise class or two // wear red // wear dresses // wear heels // post several ‘a day in the life’ posts // blog more // tweet more // facebook (even) less // stop apologising for my existence // stop self-sabotage // go on a picnic with my cousin // have coffee dates in parks with friends // invite people over to watch a movie in my living room // make popcorn // meal prep // laugh more // kiss more // hug more // smile more // give (even) less fucks // love more // keep a happiness jar // be content // keep cosy // light candles // get up // dress up // show up // never give up // always have fresh flowers in the kitchen // unfuck my habitat // keep it simple // stop confusing honesty with arseholeism // ditto for sarcasm and snark // marble // rose gold // grey // white // black // red // rust brown // more sushi // more running // less running around in circles // less complaining // less comparing // fresh air

What’s on your 2017 list?